They say – do more and apologize less. With men ruling the charts in the Forbes List or in Fortune 500 Companies – no matter how hard they drive you, they won’t be labelled bitch. However, a woman entrepreneur displaying same behavior goes directly into the “She’s a bitch” label. Women run only 4% of the Fortune 500 companies, hardly 4.1% of the Fortune 1000. 4.1%! In short, it’s not a woman’s world out here.
Women mostly avoid that trap and try to be in good shoes of all in order to nullify the effects of that label. What does this indicate? It’s better to be a bitch and not bother or to be goody shoes who fears labels? I don’t have the right answer but here’s what my experience tells me. You don’t have to be goody shoes and you don’t have to be bitchy too. Be who you are!!
Researchers say that women who bitch go ahead and catch success
For me, that short term gain can not be a long term success. Brazen behavior can give men creeps and also admiration but we’re humans and we want warmth in every field even business! Building relationships on business factors dwell on money and “warms the cockles of heart” behavior. Not the gun totting tycoon who wears Prada with an attitude to kill.
You don’t have to be Mother Teresa either!
Goodness has its time and space. You don’t have to be goody shoes if the deal is at stake. Fight fair but fight! Be firm but gentle. Harshness will undo all the positive effects that you could have gotten in the process.
Be the Elephant
Whenever I faltered or felt disturbed with what people said, my mother always quoted this phrase, “The elephant never bothers and keeps walking ahead no matter how many dogs bark at it.” Be the Elephant. Care no two hoots about what people say or what your competitors cry hoarse about. Believe in what you’re doing and keep walking.
Have no Expectations
You think people will like you? Be happy for you? Will they love you? Accept you? Hell! There are more than 7.4 billion people on earth, each having their own brains, their own thinking process and their own set of experiences. You can’t please them all. Nor can you shut their mouths. Let them be. Don’t expect anyone to love you. Love yourself. Believe in yourself and to the hell with everyone else! If they love you give them back in ample measure. If they don’t it’s perfectly OK.
Be a Woman. Be who you are and do what you want to do. Period.
This is a guest post by Kavita Singh who is the Founder of “Kaffeinated Konversations” and is leading eChai Ventures in Indore. She is also the co-founder of Unbound Her, a platform that encourages women to connect at different levels for greater independence and autonomy.
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